USUALLY I AVOID EXPRESSING AN OPINION ON ABORTION FOR TWO REASONS. FIRST, BECAUSE I AM NOT A WOMEN AND DO NOT EXPERIENCE THEIR MEDICAL PHYSICAL AND SPIRITUAL CHALLENGES. SECOND, HEALTH ISSUES AND SOLUTIONS CHANGE RAPIDLY LEAVING MANY TIMES MORE QUESTIONS THAN CLEAR ANSWERS. HOWEVER, THE QUESTION OF ABORTION IN THE LAST TRIMESTER IS ANOTHER ISSUE.
THE FIRST TRIMESTER I HAVE ALWAYS CONSIDERED IT THE PREGNANT WOMAN’S DECISION. HOWEVER, IN MY LIFE I STEPPED INTO THE ROLE OF DECISION MAKER FOR MY EX-WIFE. SHE FELT BECAUSE OF HER HEALTH THAT SHE WAS UNFIT TO MAKE DECISIONS ABOUT HER PREGNANCY. I HAD TO BALANCE THE LIFE OF AN UNBORN CHILD WITH MY EX-WIFE’S BLOOD PRESSURE, KIDNEY AND LIVER CONDITIONS. MY GOAL WAS SIMPLE TO PROTECT MY EX-WIFE’S LIFE AND IF POSSIBLE SAVE THE LIFE OF OUR BABY.
EVERY DOCTOR APPOINTMENT, BLOOD TEST, SONOGRAM OR MEDICINE WAS ALWAYS DOUBTFUL IN CONCLUSION AND COMPLICATED AS TO GOING FORWARD WITH THE PREGNANCY. AT THE SAME TIME I RECEIVED HARSH VERBAL ATTACKS FROM MY EX-WIFE’S FAMILY ACCUSING ME OF ONLY CARING FOR THE BABY AND NOT THE LIFE OF MY EX-WIFE. WE PERSEVERED THROUGH THE FIRST TRIMESTER.
THE SECOND TRIMESTER I HAVE ALWAYS CONSIDERED IT THE BABY’S CALL. BY THEN I THOUGHT A PREGNANT WOMAN HAD ACCEPTED THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF MOTHERHOOD AND ALL THAT WAS LEFT WAS THE DEVELOPMENT OF A HEALTHY BABY. NOW THAT I LOOK BACK INTO OUR SITUATION I REALIZE FROM EXPERIENCE THE ISSUE OF HEALTH FOR MY EX-WIFE AND BABY WERE ALSO AFFECTED FROM THE INTENSE EMOTIONS AND PHYSICAL CHANGES IN THE SECOND TRIMESTER. THOSE SITUATIONS WOULD CLOUD JUDGEMENT.MOREOVER, EACH NEW DEVELOPMENT OF THE BABY REQUIRED ALL OUT MEDICAL ASSISTANCE TO SURVIVE. WHILE A SMALL SHIFT IN MEDICAL CONCERN CAN OCCUR FROM MOTHER TO BABY BOTH AT THIS TIME IN OUR CIRCUMSTANCE ARE SO INTERTWINED THAT EVERY ACTION FROM SLEEPING TO BREATHING ARE CONNECTED AND SUBJECT TO IMMEDIATE DECISION. THEREFORE, THE SECOND TRIMESTER MAY BE ALL ABOUT THE BABY AND IF IT IS DEVELOPING BUT ASSUREDLY THE INTENSE CHANGES TO THE MOTHER ARE ALSO A SIGNIFICANT FACTOR TO BE CONSIDERED.
AT THE THIRD TRIMESTER MOTHER AND CHILD HAVE AND ARE STILL WEATHERING THE CHALLENGES OF HEALTH. THE QUESTION OF BIRTH IS LOOMING. FOR ME IT WAS ALL ABOUT SEEKING AS MANY DAYS AS POSSIBLE IN THE WOMB WITHOUT CREATING GREATER HEALTH PROBLEMS FOR MY EX-WIFE. FOR OUR CIRCUMSTANCES WE MADE THE DECISION TO DELIVER THE BABY C-SECTION AT 32 WEEKS. SHE WAS BORN HEALTHY LEVEL 2 URGENCY CARE AND AFTER SIX WEEKS WAS RELEASED HEALTHY TO OUR DAILY CARE. MY EX-WIFE CAME HOME SHORTLY AFTER DELIVERY AND MADE A FULL HEALTHY RECOVERY.
THE THIRD TRIMESTER IS NOT ABOUT ABORTION BUT RATHER LIFE. THE CHOICE AT THIS POINT IS HOW BEST TO PROTECT LIFE AS TIME HAS PASSED OVER THE ISSUES OF IMMEDIATE HEALTH CARE AND EMOTIONAL PREPAREDNESS. THERE ARE TWO LIVES TO PROTECT AT THIS STAGE OF LIFE DEVELOPMENT WHICH INVOLVES ALL PARTIES. ANY ACTION TAKEN UNILATERALLY VOIDS THE PROTECTION OF LAW AND UNEQUIVOCALLY VIOLATES OUR CHRISTIAN PRINCIPLES. FOR MYCALL IT IS CLEARLY WRONG IN THE THIRD TRIMESTER TO HAVE LATE OR PARTIAL BIRTH ABORTIONS.
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